How do I revive this marriage?

Q: What would you recommend to renew a 38 year marriage that has separated us in most ways except that we are still living in the same house? We each go our separate ways and my spouse advised me over one year ago that he prefers to do things on his own. So what should I do? I have gone this past year mostly alone and I do not enjoy living this way. This is not marriage the way God intended it but I don’t know how to fix it, Please help.
Diane

Bob: Diane, I thought about this a long time – here’s what I have to say to you . . . Usually people get married “until death do us part.”

If you don’t have an intellectual rapport, you are not sharing ideas. Intellectually the marriage is dead.

If you don’t have an emotional rapport, then heart to heart there’s no strong vibration. Emotionally the marriage is dead.

If intellectually and emotionally it’s dead, odds are pretty good your physical life is the same way – there’s no sexual relationship – it’s also dead.

It’s possible that it’s time to give this marriage a quiet funeral and get on with living.

 

Why am I not attracting my love?

Q: I am 45 years old and am practicing the Law of Attraction like crazy when it comes to finding the husband of my dreams.  I think I’m a great catch, own a really successful marketing firm, love to have fun, and am fit and active.  A year ago, I did my Bob Proctor goal card and set a goal that I would find the husband of my dreams and be married by December 1, 2007.  I didn’t even come close, although I did go on dates with some really interesting guys.  I’ve also been writing in my gratitude journal how happy and grateful I am for all of the advantages that my life provides me. However, my number one goal is to be in an amazing marriage.  I was married before, but have been single for 12 years.  I’ve made a clear, very specific list of the qualities my husband possesses and I review this list every day.  What else should I be doing?  How do I keep the faith that the Universe will provide my deepest desire?
Kathleen

Bob: Kathleen, it would appear from your question that you are doing everything you should be doing. There’s one possible catch – do you really believe this is going to happen? Napoleon Hill said, “There’s a difference between wishing for something … and being ready to receive it. No one is ready for a thing until they believe they can acquire it – the state of mind must be of belief and not mere hope or wish.”

Understand that the law decrees that whatever image we hold and stay emotionally involved with MUST move into form. It must happen. The more we understand the Law, the easier it is to believe. And then, we move past belief to truly knowing.

I’ll hold the belief for you, Kathleen. I believe you will be married. There’s no doubt in my mind. Hold on to my belief in your behalf if it’s all you can do right now. But I encourage you to search your thoughts and ask yourself, “Do I really believe?” Because when YOU believe, all that supports you in this universe acts. It has no other option.

I’ll look forward to receiving your wedding invitation.

 

Why do I keep falling for the wrong guys?

Q: Bob, why are the guys I fall for the wrong ones and the ones that fall for me the wrong ones for me?
Cathy

Bob: The only ones who could fall for you are the wrong ones because you’re in the wrong vibration. Why don’t you start repeating, “I’m so happy and grateful now that absolutely terrific men are attracted to me and I enjoy their company.”

Then enjoy it.

 

My spouse is very negative . . .

Q: How do I stay focused on Law of Attraction when my spouse is very negative and always brings up my past failures and our past problems?
JoAnna

Bob: Quit listening to him. Let that be his problem. If he wants to live in the past, let him go there. Just make up your mind you’re going to live in the pleasant present. Make a list of positive experiences you’ve had with your husband over the years – be specific until you can see them again firmly in your mind. When he chooses to return to the past, don’t react. Instead, flip the switch in your mind to the positive, pleasant experiences you’ve enjoyed with him. It’s not necessary that you share these with him – it is only necessary that you remain in a pleasant vibration about your relationship. Don’t be surprised, however, when you begin to see a shift in his comments about the past.

 

What’s blocking me from finding my soul mate?

Q: How can I identify what is blocking me from finding my soul mate?
Christine

Bob: I can tell you in a heartbeat what’s blocking you – you’re blocking yourself. Take a sheet of paper and write an “R” in the middle. This represents your Results. In the upper left, add a minus sign, and in the upper right hand side, put a positive sign for the positive.

If you feel something’s blocking what you want, you’re getting results you don’t want. Describe those results – in writing – in detail, in all their negativity. Now, take another sheet of paper and write out the polar opposite – write it in the present tense – “I’m so happy and grateful now that . . . ” and write in detail the opposite of those current results. When I have my coaching clients do this, they very quickly land on exactly what it is they DO want in a soul mate. And once you’re clear, you can begin to properly attract it. Now, burn the sheet of paper with all the negativity – it’s a symbolic thing, really. Then, begin immediately to repeat the positive one like a mantra all day, every day.

 

How can you speed up finding that special one?

Q: Bob, how can you speed up finding that special one?
Ann

Bob: Quit trying to speed it up. Enjoy where you’re at. Move yourself into a pleasant vibration and you’ll attract what you’re looking for – another pleasant vibration.